Sabotaging behaviours are ones that interfere with us achieving our goals and keep us stuck in situations we would like to change.
They exist to keep us safe, to keep us in our comfort zone where everything is safe and predictable. They were usually developed as survival strategies, as the best way of getting our needs met when we were children.
They are very frustrating and often in play if a part of your life is feeling so promising but then, yet again, does not work out as planned.
Here are some examples:
- Deciding to clean out a cupboard when you know you have a piece of work to finish
- Starting an argument with your partner over nothing just as things were beginning to look really good
- Turning up late when you had promised to be on time
- Getting drunk the night before an interview
Other examples of sabotaging behaviours might include:
- People pleasing
- Being disorganised
- Giving up
- Lack of self-care
In each case some part of us is sabotaging our chances of success. Some part of us has a big investment in us not succeeding.
EAM can help
EAM is a powerful tool to help us identify these behaviours and the underlying causes. Once we have gained clarity we can clear away the patterns of sabotage and replace them with positive behaviours that allow us to achieve success.
Want to find out what EAM can help you stop sabotaging your life? Arrange a free clarity call with me and I will show you how.