Sabotaging behaviours are ones that interfere with us achieving our goals and keep us stuck in situations we would like to change.
They exist to keep us safe, to keep us in our comfort zone where everything is safe and predictable. They were usually developed as survival strategies, as the best way of getting our needs met when we were children.
They are very frustrating and often in play if a part of your life is feeling so promising but then, yet again, does not work out as planned.
Here are someexamples:
Deciding to clean out a cupboard when you know you have a piece of work to finish
Starting an argument with your partner over nothing just as things were beginning to look really good
Turning up late when you had promised to be on time
Getting drunk the night before an interview
Other examples of sabotaging behaviours might include:
People pleasing
Procrastination
Perfectionism
Busyness
Being disorganised
Overworking
Giving up
Lack of self-care
In each case some part of us is sabotaging our chances of success. Some part of us has a big investment in us not succeeding.
EAM can help
EAM is a powerful tool to help us identify these behaviours and the underlying causes. Once we have gained clarity we can clear away the patterns of sabotage and replace them with positive behaviours that allow us to achieve success.
This is the second in a series of posts exploring what EAM can do for you.
If you are wanting a new partner but you don’t believe you’re lovable, don’t believe that you deserve respect, don’t believe you are attractive, what kind of partner do you think you will attract?
If you’re applying for a new job but deep down you don’t believe that you’re good enough, don’t believe you deserve the increased income how likely do you think you are to present well at interview and get the job?
They are just beliefs
But the truth is that these are beliefs they’re not facts!
Because they are just beliefs it is completely possible to change those beliefs to rewire that early programming and believe different things about ourselves. Our new beliefs will still just be beliefs, but can you see how much more likely you are to have the life you want if your beliefs about yourself are ones that support you and what you want from your life, rather than undermine you in your attempts to achieve your goals.
Our thoughts create our reality
We form most of our beliefs about ourselves and the world in the first 7 years of our lives. We then spend the rest of our lives looking for evidence to support and reinforce our beliefs and yet we are often completely unaware that these beliefs exist. Our unhelpful beliefs and self punishing thoughts are among the main things that hold us back from living the life we want. If we don’t believe in ourselves, don’t believe in our abilities, don’t believe that good things will come to us then this is how we will experience the world.
If we repeat the same thoughts often enough they become beliefs and also impact on our emotions. Conversely our beliefs and emotions feed our thoughts. The world around us mirrors our thoughts, beliefs and emotions reflecting back our unconscious expectations and thus our thoughts create our reality.
Stop for a minute and imagine how you would feel, what you would do if you totally believed in yourself. What would be different? What would you do differently? Can you see how changing your beliefs can start to change your life?
EAM enables us to identify our limiting beliefs that are hiding in our subconscious. It enables us to reprogramme ourselves to rewire in new beliefs that support us. With supportive beliefs our lives change we begin to believe in ourselves and our abilities, we believe we deserve, that we are loved and wanted, that we can succeed, that we can achieve our dreams.
Once you know how to use EAM to work on your beliefs the world is your oyster. Watch the negative beliefs about yourself start to fall away, and how the way you view yourself and the world begins to change. When you start truly believing in yourself and your right to be treated with respect your confidence grows, you feel empowered and are so much more able to step into the life you want to live.
“When I first started using EAM I was given a list of beliefs to work through. I was shocked to discover how many of them I had but also delighted to watch how quickly they disappeared.”
Want to know how you can identify the unconscious beliefs you hold and let them go? Arrange a free clarity call with me and I will show you how.
This is the first of a series of posts designed to give you some insight into how the Energy Alignment Method (EAM) can help you change your life.
One of the first things most people learn to do using EAM is to shift their emotional state. EAM enables you to quickly identify the emotions you are feeling and shift them to something more positive.
“I found EAM very useful to help me manage my anxiety when having treatment for breast cancer. It’s so quick, accessible and easy to use. Within minutes I was able to shift my feelings from a state of anxiety to one where I felt much calmer. I loved the fact I could use it anywhere.”
Our emotional set-points
Our emotions are an important part of how we experience life and have a big influence on our self-esteem, what we think and believe, how we behave and even our physical health. In our early years we create emotional set-points, our emotional responses to what we experience. We learn about emotions from the significant people in our life who model emotional responses, and we learn by their reactions which teach us which emotions are acceptable and which are not. We learn to repress certain emotions and to display others to help us get our needs met.
Trauma and challenging experiences can lead to persistent emotional states, for example, living with uncertainty can lead to an ongoing state of anxiety. If we repeat certain emotions often enough they become our emotional set-points, our go to responses when similar situations are triggered.
For example, if you were bullied as a child you may have become anxious about rejection. As an adult you may find yourself getting anxious every time you perceive someone as rejecting you or fear rejection might occur. The reality may be that no one is rejecting you but your past experience of rejection is being triggered.
EAM enables us to identify and let go of our emotional set-points. If necessary, it can help us identify the original trauma or experiences that started a particular emotional response and having identified it, release it from its source.
The power of change
Improving your emotional state not only means you feel more positive in the moment, it has a ripple effect. You feel more positive, you see the people in your life through a more positive lens. You behave differently, people respond differently and you create a momentum of change for yourself and the people around you.
From an energetic perspective the more positive our emotions are the higher our energetic vibration and the higher our vibration the more we are able to attract (to manifest) the things we want to experience in to our life. If you want your life to really change you need to feel good first.
EAM enables you let go of the fear, the anxiety, the shame, the overwhelm and replace them with contentment, happiness, joy and peace. It really is that simple!
Try it for yourself
If you haven’t tried EAM yet and want to experience this for yourself book a clarity call with me and we can arrange a quick demo.
